What to Avoid on Your First Date

Need help before the big date? You don’t need to feel ashamed. All you need is the right preparations to make it memorable and magical.

You want to make a good first impression, so it’s understandable if you’re nervous.

First dates can stimulate a range of emotions — excitement, awkwardness, and tension.

When people prepare, they always make sure everything is planned perfectly — what to wear, where to go, and even how to speak.

What most people fail to think through, though, are the things you should avoid doing or saying to your date. Take note of the following:

Being late is disrespectful.

It leaves a bad impression. Like, really bad. If you can’t make it to your agreed schedule the first time, how can you be sure you won’t be late for your next dates? As much as possible, arrive on time. Set an alarm or reminder on your phone if you have to.

Bringing up your ex is a NO-NO.

Of all the topics you can talk about, why would you choose to talk about your ex? This will make the date uncomfortable and even raise a reasonable red flag. Steer from mentioning your history at all costs (unless asked, which is also strange of them).

Personal questions are weird.

No, this isn’t a police interrogation. Asking questions can be an ice breaker, but not to the point of being all over them.

Bizarre, personal questions include:

• Am I the type of person your parents would like?
• How many people have you been with?

Remember to base your questions on the mood of your date. Tread lightly.

Don’t shower compliments.

I get it, your date looks good. You can’t take your eyes off of them. However, excessive praise may turn someone off. Flattery may lighten up the mood, but it can also make the date unbearable. You can compliment them, but not too much.

Answer with certainty.

First-date jitters make us give unsure answers. We often get nervous about how to answer or respond.

“Maybe”

“I guess”

“I still haven’t thought about it”

If you’re one of those people who give out uncertain answers, try to stop that habit. Not only does it make you look indecisive, but it also makes your date doubtful of your connection.

Don’t judge their food choices.

Food may both be a personal and cultural thing. Insulting their taste could be an insult to them on a deeper level. Besides, you may not know your date enough for you to have a say on their food.

Nonetheless, food shaming is offensive.

Your first dates can be amazing or tragic, it’s up to how you handle them.

Instantly felt a connection after the first date? Terrific! Oh, you didn’t? That’s all right. Some dates don’t work out for a reason, so don’t beat yourself up too much. Instead, learn from the experience.

You will be able to handle first dates better after a few failed ones. It’s all part of the learning process. Just keep positive, and you’ll eventually be good at it. Good luck!