Successful Marriage Is More Than Just Showing Affection
Do you know why marriages fail? Because some couples believe that love is enough.
Honestly, affection is necessary in every relationship. To maintain a good union, you must prove your admiration to your partner through words and actions.
However, love is not enough to make a marriage work.
You need to consider a lot of things, such as the following factors:
#1. Build a strong foundation.
Through the years of being a matchmaker, I have met many clients whose marriages ended in divorce. The reason behind their breakup? It’s because they never built a strong foundation at the beginning.
You see, to strengthen a romantic connection, these factors should be present in your relationship:
- Understanding
- Respect
- Commitment
- Time
- Trust
- Honesty
- Intimacy
Without these things, your marriage is most likely to fail.
Think of it this way.
These factors act as the foundation of the marriage that you’re building. When something is lacking or the base is not that strong, a small conflict can easily lead to a huge breakup.
This is why I recommend taking your time before committing to a marriage. You should know your partner first and learn about each other’s values and beliefs. This way, your marriage won’t end in heartbreak.
#2. Prepare for your upcoming responsibilities.
One of the most common reasons why married couples divorce is money. I have seen a lot of people argue about this throughout their marriage. Some were able to deal with it, but many didn’t.
This is the reality of being married. You have more responsibilities that you must deal with or else you’ll end up hating each other’s guts.
Yes, you can rely on your family and friends for support. However, you and your partner are expected to resolve your problems on your own.
That being said, you need to be financially and emotionally prepared for your marriage.
First, have the necessary finances. If you are like most couples who want to have children, then you need to save up for their basic needs, financial support, and educational funding.
Most of all, you must be emotionally prepared for what’s to come. Your responsibilities are not limited to providing financial support. Your partner will also look to you for the emotional intimacy that they need.
#3. Be willing to learn.
Here’s the deal. There’s no definitive list for a successful marriage.
Regardless of how strong your relationship’s foundation is and how mentally prepared you are for this new journey, you will still find yourself divorcing each other if you don’t want to learn.
Throughout your marriage, you will face a lot of conflicts. However, whether it leads to divorce or not depends on how you handle things with your partner.
In the end, you need to choose.
Will you work through your differences and learn from your mistakes or try to argue and point fingers at each other?
Don’t Rely on Love Alone
I understand if you believe that love alone is enough to make a marriage last. This is our default setting when we are in love.
However, consider that there are a lot of factors that can help lead to a successful marriage.
These include having a strong foundation and the necessary mentality to withstand conflicts throughout your married life.
That being said, take the time to think these things through before making a promise. This way, you have higher chances of a successful and lasting marriage.
