She Wants to Introduce Me to Her Family, What Should I Do?
You’re on a date with your partner. Everything seems fine, but out of the blue, she asks you this question: “Would you like to meet my parents?”
You say “yes” without giving it much thought. But after a few minutes, the realization sinks in on you. You start imagining scenarios, like her parents asking you thousands of nerve-wracking questions and her older brothers sizing you up. You start to feel nervous.
The days pass by quickly. It’s now Sunday — the day of the dreaded family dinner. You feel tense, worrying about what will happen.
I’m here to tell you that there’s nothing to worry about. The fact that she wants to introduce you to her family is a good sign, so relax a little.
Why does she want you to meet her parents?
Meeting her family is an important milestone for your relationship. She sees a future with you. However, before she makes any life-changing decisions, she needs to know her family’s opinion first. She understands that they know what’s best for her.
What should you do?
Don’t just go to her family’s house unprepared. Show your partner that you’re taking it seriously. Take note of the tips below:
- Do your research.
Ask your girlfriend for any useful information about her family. Expect that you will be talking to her whole household, so it is best to prepare yourself.
Ask about their jobs, interests, and even the tiniest details, like their favorite sports or alcoholic drink. The more information you have, the better. This way, you can keep your conversation flowing.
2. Make a good impression.
Just like how you prepared for your first date, you should also strive to make a good impression on her family.
Show her family that you are pleased to meet them. Dress well. Bring her parents, or even the whole household, a gift. Don’t call them by their first names, rather ask them what they want to be called before having any conversation with them. Most importantly, be confident in every interaction.
3. Talk to her parents.
Most men fail to talk to their girlfriend’s parents directly. Instead, they talk to them through their partners. Don’t do this. It’s not a good look. It’s like you’re not trying your best to step up and connect with them.
Force yourself to engage in a conversation. It’s normal to feel nervous and shy. However, you should have the strength to talk to her parents and win their approval.
4. Be your best self.
If, at first, they express dislike or disinterest toward you, keep your cool. You have the whole night to change their impression of you.
But, how do you change someone’s negative perception of you? Put your best foot forward. You act polite, show kindness and patience, and keep your emotions in check.
You need to understand that they are testing your character. They will make offensive comments about something you enjoy, and you may want to engage in an argument. If that happens, steer away to safer conversations or keep your thoughts to yourself. Because what you do during this whole duration will significantly affect your relationship.
What should you keep in mind?
Her family wants the best for her. They do not want her to get hurt. So, as much as possible, act like a person who they can trust and depend on. Good luck!
