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Finding Your Soulmate After Ending a Toxic Marriage
Have you ever been undermined, taken for granted, or even had your needs pushed aside?
Have you finally had enough of being married to the wrong woman?
Don’t be afraid to leave.
Don’t let her stop you from finding your soulmate.
This article isn’t about cheating — far from it. Rather, it is knowing when enough is enough and starting over again.
I’m sure you were in love at some point in your marriage. But as time went on, your feelings for her changed because she changed. And now, you’ve been miserable for the past six or so years, maybe even more.
You figured that she wasn’t the one. After all, you’ve tried everything to keep your marriage intact, but to no avail.
You are unhappy, and that has to change. Some things in your life need to be different.
So now you want to end things and find the one. But you can’t abruptly end it right then and there; it’s not that simple.
Ending the marriage first
Don’t start a new relationship if you haven’t ended your current one. Remember, you’re still married.
Even though you divorced her in your mind, in reality, you still have a responsibility as a husband.
Get your affairs in order and seek legal counsel. Ask them how you can end your marriage in peace, divide your assets, and take custody of your children if there are any.
Don’t blindly leave your marriage and let your instincts guide you. I promise you won’t get far. You can only find your true love after all is said and done.
That said, a tip before finding your soulmate: Never leave your marriage for temporary satisfaction. You are only entitled to end things if your wife is constantly taking advantage of you.
Otherwise, you can still bring the spark back into your relationship. Perhaps consider attending couple counseling or reaching out to your support system.
Finding your soulmate
Your soulmate can be anywhere or be anyone. She could be a coworker, a stranger you met four years ago, a neighbor, an online match, or someone you haven’t yet met. So, open yourself to the possibilities.
It’s so stereotypical to assume that finding a soulmate is based on “stars aligning,” when it’s not. Even matchmakers can bend destiny and find you your soulmate.
After all, a soulmate is someone you feel deeply connected with, someone who loves you unconditionally, and can make you feel like you’ve known each other before.
If this is the case, how do you know if she’s the one?
Although not perfect, being with her feels like you’ve been standing all your life and just sat down. There’s an unmistakable feeling of ease whenever you think about her, even in trying times.
Moreover, no matter how many arguments you may have, you both try to patch things up and strengthen your connection.
Although finding your soulmate can be quite exhilarating, it can also be complicated, given that you just ended your marriage. But your relationship can be a real eye-opener as you finally experience what true love is like.
