DATING ADVICE
When Ending a Situationship, Is Ghosting the Best Option?
How can you even break up with someone you’re not in a relationship with?
Ending a situationship may be more complex than ending a relationship simply because you have no label. What do you do? Is ghosting her the best option?
Your situationship has been nothing but late-night booty calls and drunk calls. This lack of commitment isn’t what you signed up for; nevertheless, you want out.
It might have worked at some point. Hell, you enjoyed it. But it has dawned on you that it’s causing you more stress and drama than it did the first time.
You were looking for an honest-to-god relationship but settled for what you have now. Who can blame you? No label, a commitment-free relationship, friends with benefits — these are what most men desire. Perhaps you even thought that by spending more time together, she’d change her mind and move things forward with you.
But all that waiting and hoping for nothing. You want to set things right and have a genuine relationship.
Yet, no matter how much you want to end things, you can’t. You had, at one point, a connection. You just didn’t know when or how to take things forward. It’s now too late and awkward to begin a formal relationship or cut ties.
Simply put, you’re screwed.
A coward’s way out
Ending a situationship can feel like losing someone who gets you. However, the undefined nature of your relationship can often lead to ambiguous expectations.
Most people don’t want to face this dilemma. So, they think staying in the middle, still indecisive, is the safest.
But for someone like you searching for something more, perhaps you think the best thing to do is ghost.
You let go of her in one go — no confrontation, no tears, and nothing to make you waver.
However, ghosting is not how to end a situationship. It breeds feelings of uncertainty, anxiety, and confusion, which both parties do not deserve to have.
Moreover, ghosting only shows that you’re weak. You can’t end things decently because you don’t have what it takes. I understand you don’t know what to do, but that still doesn’t excuse you.
Put your fears aside and be honest with the woman you’re in a situationship with. Tell her about how you genuinely feel for the sake of your emotional well-being and hers.
Explain that you can’t keep doing this — you want to stop acting happy because you’re not. You long for a strong relationship founded on stability and consistency.
Otherwise, you’ll spend each day in pain, knowing that you can’t be more than whatever you are now. You really can’t keep doing this.
What kind of man are you?
Her inability to commit has nothing to do with your self-worth. The same goes for whether or not she’s a good fit for you.
However, one indicator of your value is how you own things up and end things right then and there.
Ending a situationship is easier said than done. But if you have to end it, you should open up with a direct and honest conversation with the woman you’re with.
