DATING ADVICE
“Is it okay after a bad first date to ask for a second date?”
If your first date didn’t meet your expectations but you still want to give each other a shot, asking for a second date is not a bad idea.
There’s really no way for you to guarantee a date will work out the way you want it to, but if both of you are willing to give each other a chance, why not? There’s no harm in going at it a second time around, as long as “bad” doesn’t mean deal-breaking.
While the first date is often used to gauge your first impression of your partner, you should keep in mind that since it’s your first time together — you can’t expect it to be perfect.
In fact, asking for a second date only shows that you are interested in the person and that you are ready to step out of your comfort zone for a second chance with them.
Here’s how to ensure the second time’s a charm:
- Don’t be nervous. Nervousness can cause you to lose your cool which can lead to a mental block.
- Be yourself. Communication will be seamless if you just be yourself. Lying will require you to come up with answers that you need to make up on the fly. And believe me, if they are asking a lot of questions, you’re gonna have to remember everything you came up with.
- Compliment them. Take time to compliment their looks or thank them for giving you another shot despite how the first date went.
- Keep it simple. Don’t go overboard with your date. Fewer distractions mean you can focus on each other. Remember that you are on a date to get to know each other.
Whether your first date went well or bad, asking for a second date isn’t always a bad idea if both of you are willing to give each other a chance. If one declines the offer, it’s perfectly okay. You still end up walking away from each other if you didn’t ask anyway.
Don’t live a life full of “What ifs.” Take your chance and learn from the experience.
Originally published on Quora
